Vincent’s Thoughts

Now, age old question again here.

First, you see, Leading, sounds like a big manly word.

“I wanna lead in this family”, sounds very condesending and proud isn’t it?

So let’s talk about influencing. Bear in mind, I am talking in the context of marriage here.

Women are created differently and is more easily influenced than led. Yeah, I quoted that and feels that it is like wisdom from Heaven.

Loving, on the other hand, is not pampering. It is like, you bring out the best, admonish and reprimand in necessary times, and most of all, support the woman we love and has pledged our matrimony to.

So, if you ask me, I would choose the latter 2, influencing and loving.

Caution here,  before even doing any of the 3 above, we men, need to check ourselves, and prayerfully with God before we impose our principles and thoughts into the woman we love. This is just in case, we are heading wrongly in our directions and intentions.

So, remember Adam, he didn’t do nothing in the Garden of Eden, so we men cannot blame Eve for being the perpetrator to man’s fall to sin. Adam could have checked with God and asked Eve not to take the apple first.

Lesson: Influence and Love, not Lead with self pride. Lose the ego, guys.

Vince, Signing Off.

Whether we like it or not, we are made to be dominant, but yet gentle.

That’s quite an impossible combination, but not unachievable.

I am Vincent, a man, getting married this August 9th, 2008 at least, the wedding day is on that date.

My wife and I have registered with the Marriage Registrar of Malaysia in February 2007 on Valentine’s day.

So putting it simply, I am already technically married.

Well, to tell you the truth, it takes some effort to get used to couplehood as opposed to singlehood.

I used to be a rebellious and headstrong person with no brains… LOL (stands for Laugh Out Loud in Internet jargon).

My perspective change as I got Joanne as my lifelong best friend.

I made mistakes in a lot of ways and often fall short of the role of being a man in our 2 years period of having known each other.

To be man…. the SECRET?

“Stand up, face challenges, and constantly look for solutions and take out the emotions. Support, and love your family.”

Now, that’s the simplistic and humble view from me.

We can go deeper into the Bible (I am a Christian by the way, a very stonge and strong one, if you wanna know, but not necessarily the most holy and best one out there, I am just banging on God’s grace to get me into heaven.. LOL) to find out more about the role of a man.

You see, when Eve sinned by taking the apple in the middle of the Garden of Eden, Adam stood right beside her. He wasn’t somewhere else. And what made Adam took the apple and sin with Eve together?

INACTION!!! Adam didn’t protect Eve or reprimand her. Adam didn’t do nothing!

So guys, learn something here.

Till next time.

Vince, signing off.